If you really want to raise godly children, there are certain basic truth about child training you must embrace and practice. The most important aspect in building any structure is the foundation which are not really seen. These basic truths form the foundation of raising godly children. The below points are the fundamental truths about child training and development.
YOUR CHILDREN BELONG TO GOD
Psalm 127:3 ‘Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord; and the fruit of the womb is his rewards’
The first and foremost truth you should always have at the forefront is that your children in actual sense do not belong to you, but to God. God simply put you in charge and a day will come when parents will give account for the lives of their children.
It is necessary to emphasize that the kids of today will be those that will lead the country tomorrow. The serial killer, armed robber, cultist, was once an innocent kid who doesn’t know his left from his right. The future of the church, nation or society depends largely on what we do with our children today. If you lay a solid foundation for your children today as instructed in Proverbs 22:6, then no shame will come upon any parent, society or nation as stated in Proverbs 29:15.
IT IS A COMMANDMENT FROM GOD
The second fundamental truth about child training and development is that God commands us to do so. If you decide to bring forth children into this world, then raising them in godly standards is not an option. If you think child training and development is a good advice or suggestion or what you do at your convenience, then you are mistaken. It is a commandment from God, not from man.
And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart; And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children. Deuteronomy 6:6-7
To do this with joy, you need to acknowledge first of all that his commandments are not grievous or burdensome – 1 John 5:3. There are consequences when you fail to obey or execute God’s commandment and one of such consequences is shame. In the book, Break The Generation Curse by Marilyn Hickey, she told the story of an atheist named Max Jukes:
“Max Jukes was an atheist who married a godless woman. Some 560 descendants were traced:
Three hundred and ten died as paupers, 150 became criminals, 7 of them murderers, 100 were known to be drunkards, and more than half of the women were prostitutes.
The descendants of Max Jukes cost the United States government more than $1.25 million in 19th Century dollars.
Jonathan Edwards was a contemporary of Max Jukes. He was a committed Christian who gave God first place in his life. He married a godly young lady, and some 1,394 descendants were traced:
Two hundred and ninety-five graduated from college, of whom 13 became college Presidents and 65 became professors, 3 were elected as United States senators, three as state governors, and others were sent as ministers to foreign countries, 30 were judges, 100 were lawyers (one the dean of an outstanding law school), 56 practiced as physicians (one was the dean of a medical school), 75 became officers in the military, 100 were well-known missionaries, preachers and prominent authors, another 80 held some form of public office, of whom three were mayors of large cities, one was the comptroller of the U.S. Treasury and another was vice president of the United States.
Not one of the descendants of the Edwards family was a liability to the government.”
The responsibility of child development is non-transferable and thus personal. Being a parent is a responsibility as well as a privilege.
YOU MUST BE DILIGENT
And these words, which I command thee this day shall be in thine heart: And thou shall teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down and when thou risest up – Deuteronomy 6:6-7
The above scripture was a specific instruction from God to the children of Israel to teach their children His commandments with all diligence. Sitting in thine house above connotes specific times at home with your kids to teach them God’s word. When you do this you are investing into the future of your children.
Parents, let’s create time to sit down and train our children in God’s ways. Don’t pretend or claim to be too busy for that, or else you will face shame tomorrow. Sitting down, walking by the way and lying down on the bed are all symbolic of man’s daily activity.
However, parenting and child development goes beyond teaching by words of mouth alone. A wise man once said, “In practicing the art of parenthood, an ounce of example is worth a ton of preaching”. To be diligent in training your children, we have to be observant as parents.
IT IS A SEED
The principle or law of sowing and reaping works irrespective of your belief or religion. If you accidentally or negligently drop a seed on the ground, this law will take effect. You will only notice it when you see the result which will be after many days. You cannot sow orange seeds and desire or expect to harvest apple fruits. It doesn’t work that way no matter how much you pray. The scripture guarantees a harvest for your sowing. So whatever you sow into the lives of your children today, you will definitely reap in years to come; positively or negatively.
If you refuse to sow into their lives seeds worthy of good fruits out of ignorance or laxity, then someone else will. And you might not like the products of such seed.
Raising a child is a great task. Just as there is profit in all labor, the business of child development in this age will bring about invaluable profit to your life, both now and in the future.
I will conclude with this. Which is better, to train a child or to repair an adult?